---Twenty-two years ago you came into our life. We will never forget that day. You were such a beautiful baby with lots of smiles. As we held you in our arms, we wondered what the future held for you, what kind of life you would live. We wondered if we could be good parents to you and teach you and raise you right.
---You are definitely a young man that is cut from a different mold than most everyone else. You have so many wonderful and unique talents and gifts that it excites us to watch you develop them and wonder where your life is headed. We’re excited to see what great things you will accomplish with your life. You’ve done so well up-to-date!
Was raising you & your brothers easy? Not by a long shot! Would we have it any other way? Never! You have all taught us so much; Patience, Open-mindedness, Optimism, Style, Acceptance, and a Considerable amount of Love. These were lessons we couldn't have learned any other way. Thank you. You brought our family a lot of Joy! You also gave us great memories that we will always treasure:
---Your birth – Feeding you - Bathing you - Rocking you - Tricycles and bicycles – Reading to you – you Learning how to read – Teaching you how to cook & clean - Playing Batman - Your Baptism – Amusement Parks - Vacations – Day Trips - Snorkeling - Bike ramps - Making your own meals – Batting Cages – Computer Shows – Your Rolled Pancakes - Flea Market Days – Your Confirmation - Sleeping on the couch watching TV - Rushing off to school - Battles over homework - Homeschooling - Late nights and curfews - Making homeschooling videos & Editing, editing, & more editing – Playing Nintendo Games & Computer Games as a Family – Shopping – You mowing yards – Your History Lessons – Teaching you how to Drive – Your Interesting Facts - You working at 7-11 as a grunt – 7-11’s French Vanilla Cappuccino - You being Assistant Manager at 7-11 – You being Manager at 7-11 - Late night talks - The "Cats in the Cradle" video you made for Dad – Desireé - Engagement – Your apartments – Your Yummy Homemade Marshmallow Chocolate Chip Cookies – Desí’s Homemade Stuffed Shells – Playing Chess with Dad - Desí’s New fine art of Cake Decorating - You being Kyle’s Sponsor for his Confirmation - & Oh so many numerous other memories - & Soon to be Your Wedding Day! --- Thank you Joey for the life you have lived. Now you begin a new chapter that includes an eternal partner - Desireé.
---Every parent's greatest fear is that their child will make the wrong decision when it comes to marriage. But from the first time we met Desireé, we knew she was someone special. As you began to see Desireé over the next few months, we could see from the light in your eyes and the excitement in your voice that this girl had a powerful effect on you. You became happier and more confident in yourself. We watched the way she treated you and how she brought out the best in you. We secretly hoped, for your sake, that your relationship wouldn't end. Our prayers have been answered. We couldn't have chosen a more suitable young lady to be our daughter-in-law. Desireé, welcome to the family!
---A Pre-Wedding day letter wouldn't be complete without some advice on marriage. You are a beginner and we've had 22+ years of experience. So this is what we’ve learned:
- Marriage is grand, divorce is about 10 grand.
- The key to a long and happy marriage is to remember just two little words: “Yes dear!”
- If they don’t work, you know the next line...
“I’m sorry, you were right, I was wrong, it’s all My Fault, and I’ll try never to do it again...”
- Once you’re married, Desireé will always have the last word in an argument. Any word that you add after that is by default the start of a possible new argument!
- Have a phrase that means you know what, that others don’t know – until the day your kids tell them!
- Remember, when you buy flowers it proves you are guilty. However, the consequences of not buying flower are far more serious!
---On a more serious note, here are 15 tips that we have found to be very helpful in my marriage:
- Night and Morning Prayer - to give thanks, to ask for help, to worship together.
- A Daily Phone Call - to say, "I love you," to touch base, to discuss your day, to show you care.
- A Weekly Date - to go out to eat, see a movie, attend a concert, go to a park, or anything to just be together.
- Daily Service - pay attention to what your partner is dealing with and lend a hand.
- Live On a Budget - communicate about money, stay out of debt, temper your wants, agree on your expenditures.
- Listen - not only to what is said but also to what is meant.
- Regular Attendance - to church each week.
- Support Your Spouse - in school, career and righteous goals.
- Forgive Each Other - let it go, admit you're wrong, don't hold grudges and never use the "Silent Treatment."
- Patience - for tardiness, missed meals, thoughtless remarks, or imperfections.
- Soft and Kind Words - gentleness, compassion, kindness, empathy for each other.
- Care About Your Spouse's Family - enjoy their company, get to know them, visit them, overlook their differences.
- Occasional Gifts - small tokens of your love, notes, gifts of service or time.
- Love with All Your Heart & Soul - Through Thick & Thin...
- & When you have kids: “Let them be Little, cause they’re only that way for a while... Give them Hope, give them Praise, give them Love Every Day, let ‘em cry, let ‘em giggle, let ‘em sleep in the middle, oh... but let them be little...”
Well, there you have it, our advice to having a long and happy marriage.
---Joey, we’re so pleased with who you are and your choice of Desireé as your eternal companion. You are a credit to our family. May you and Desireé have a wonderful, prosperous, exciting, and happy life together...
With All Our Love ,
Mom & Dad
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